Is age a number, a state of mind or an altogether more physical thing?
I remember as a child visiting my grandparents most Sundays and thinking they were ancient! In reality they were younger than my parents are today, who were at the time younger than I am today!
This weekend marks a huge celebration for my family; my parents have been together for 50 years. Such a fabulous and amazing achievement for two truly deserving and beautiful individuals. But that’s got me thinking. If my parents have been married for 50 years, doesn’t that make both them and me, well, let’s face it….. bloody old!
According to a recent study, old age is currently believed to start at around 59 so, phew, good news is, I’ve a few years left in me yet to fathom out “adulthood”! However, another study also revealed that once women reach the age of 46 they start to feel less relevant and noticeable.
It’s probably safe to say that at 46, I would be classed as middle aged. No way though am I irrelevant! Seeing the numbers 4 and 6 written down in black and white do send shivers down my spine. 46!! Ouch. It actually pains me. No really it does – that was said with more than a sprinkle of irony as I am currently sat her in compression tights with my feet up on a box in the office as I have heavy aching legs on account of a bulging varicose vein. Give me strength!
That also means my next big birthday is 50 and I’ve still not yet been married (who am I kidding with the still, it’s highly unlikely to ever happen), never had kids, not even owned a pet and I still live in rented accommodation. Franco is desperate for a cat – I’ve told him there’s only room for one Cat in our house and that perhaps a goldfish might satiate his parental feelings! I know, I’m horrible.
Some days I feel like I’m in my early 20’s and I’ve still got all the time in the world ahead of me to do the “grown up stuff”. Other days I think, “holy shit, I’m half way through the ride we call life already, about time I shoe horned some more stuff in!”
I wouldn’t say as a child that I was especially a late developer either. As an August baby, sure, I was the youngest in the year, but I was also a fairly bright little thing. I might not have had my first boyfriend till I was 19 so there could be a clue there. I definitely wasn’t a “fast Cat” as my Mum called those other girls at school who wore their skirts much tighter and shorter than mine and could be found snogging behind the bike sheds at break time with a fag and bottle of tippex whilst I probably had my head in a book!
Turns out that I’m WAY behind on the whole adult thing!
I did once get engaged, fleetingly, and I recall owning a home for a short period of time, but those feel like distant ghosts of memories these days.
They say that age brings with it intelligence, experience, wisdom and beauty but is that really true? My mind has most definitely been sharper, my looks more radiant and whilst my experiences may well have shaped the person I am today, they’ve not all been good ones. Some days I feel fabfit and forty, other days I feel flatfat and forty (that’s the polite version anyway!)
I am here though to absolutely and categorically assure you that there is most definitely a joyous and fulfilling life after 40 and may it be a very long and healthy one for you all too. I am making it my mission (with a heavy dose of self- deprecating realism) to bring you all the top tips and tricks, beauty hacks and more so that you can ensure being in your 40s and beyond are the best and more relevant, rewarding years of your life.
I really think that the key is to maintain a positive view of ageing and a lust for life, some joie de vivre as they say.
Embrace the varicose veins, the sprouting chin hair, the sagging skin, the droopy jowls, the hot sweats, the grey thinning hair, the wrinkles OR, better still ladies, follow my blog and I’ll share with you all my secrets. I intend to simultaneously grow old both as disgracefully and as gracefully as I bloody well can. There is ALWAYS a solution and I’m not afraid to try them out for your benefit my fabulous friends.
From compression stockings, to laser hair removal, Venus freeze facials to maca powder, road testing a new hair colour to Botox and much much more.
Let’s keep the scores firmly on the doors. Make sure that age really is just an insignificant number; invest in your physical and mental well-being and focus on maintaining a youthful state of mind and you will be forever young at heart.